Good evening, I am Grace.
The poet Rabindranath Tagore once said, “The difference between friendship and love is that friendship means two people and the world, yet love means two people are the world. In friendship one plus one equals two, in love one plus one is still one.”
Many lovers actually develop from friends of the opposite sex, and at first they think that they are just each other’s ordinary best friends, but as they are attracted to each other in their daily interactions, the friendship between the two people begins to slowly deteriorate.
Friends of the opposite sex if you do not know how to pay attention to grasp a good balance, do not know how to maintain a good distance, then the relationship between the two people sooner or later will become impure. And these cross-border behaviour, specifically in the following three aspects.
Heterosexual friends, do not mind doing these things, the relationship sooner or later not pure
1
Don’t mind if the other person goes to their house
Inviting a friend to your home is a normal thing to do, but if you invite them when no one is home, then it’s out of order.
Although friends of the opposite sex are also a kind of friendship in the “best friend” relationship, but the different gender friends, or to use different ways to treat. If you are always generous to invite each other to their own home to play, or something always like to let each other to their own home with you, and do not care about each other’s identity, then in your heart, you have actually blurred the boundaries of the relationship with each other.
In other words, you have lost your mind.
When you do not treat each other as a friend of the opposite sex, then you are likely to treat him as his other half.
2
Don’t mind the physical contact
Lynn and her hairdresser, Forrest Gump, grew up together, and the two of them don’t shy away from each other in any way during their daily routine, even when they’re out drinking the same cup of milk tea, and they don’t feel awkward about it.
Lynn’s boyfriend feels that she is too close to Gump in this way and kind of doesn’t take him seriously.
But Lynn said, “What’s wrong with that, we even slept in the same bed when we were kids.”
Later on, her boyfriend couldn’t stand the fact that Lynn was acting so intimately with other members of the opposite sex, so he broke up with her. At this time, Gan also by virtue of Linlin’s companionship and comfort, the two naturally have feelings for each other beyond ordinary friends.
In the male-female relationship, if two people usually don’t mind to have physical contact with each other, then after a period of time, it is very likely that they will have a heartfelt feeling for each other.
This is because physical contact often occurs from good feelings.
3
Don’t mind telling your secrets to each other
The reason why heterosexual friends can’t have a very good understanding of each other, or take each other as their own reliance on friendship, is that when your relationship is too close, and too coupled, you will slowly rely on each other in the heart, and take it as their own can rely on, companion object.
Therefore, when you start to open your heart to a person, completely willing to expose your true self in front of him, you are actually already holding a kind of want to have a deeper understanding of each other’s psychology.
If you tell him your secrets, he will probably tell you his secrets.
This kind of one to two go, you will be in each other’s heart to maintain a different position from others.
When it comes to relationships, once the heart is in the right place, it’s hard to regain your composure again.
When your opposite sex best friend starts to develop into your love interest, then you also have to be prepared for the fact that the two of you can’t go back to a normal best friend relationship.
If you are in love, then cherish it. If you are in love, then you should take good care of it.
