Good evening, I’m Grace.
Love, like anything else, is a skill that needs to be learnt.
Except for a very few lucky ones, most people inevitably have to suffer a bit on the road to love.
It’s a very romantic ideal to go from school uniform to wedding dress, and then from wedding dress to white heads.
In reality, many people from youth to maturity, from the first love of ignorance to the later swimming, have bounced around a few embrace, change some lover.
There are many truths in relationships that only people who have been in love a few times will understand.
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The flaws that you mind initially are often the trigger for the eventual breakup as well.
This was the case with Jenny and her ex-boyfriend. Jenny herself was not tall, so especially want to find a tall boyfriend, enjoy the feeling of birdie.
Unfortunately, her ex-boyfriend is only 170 tall in shoes, so when she was initially pursuing Jenny, Xiao Wen was particularly bothered by this.
It’s just that her ex-boyfriend was too good for him, and she later accepted and got together with him.
After being together, though, she still couldn’t say she didn’t mind.
She would not want to introduce her boyfriend to her friends or let him appear in front of her colleagues because she felt he was not tall.
Later, the boyfriend felt especially hurt, and the two had a fight about it and broke up.
In fact, everyone looking for the other half of the heart have an ideal type, but also secretly set some standards and requirements, but when the person appears, some can not look at these standards, some people will still stick to a two standards.
For example, some people are appearance control, if you don’t look good enough/handsome, you may be his cruel PASS off; or he just like thin, you are too fat, he just can’t interest you ……
If you unfortunately happen to not meet the other person’s hard standards, you are better in other ways, maybe TA won’t like you, or even if you are together, he will still care, and even feel aggrieved that he is pushing it.
This point of aggrieved and unwillingness will become a thorn, in your relationship hidden pain.
Feelings are always reluctant to come, there is nothing wrong with your persistence, but if there is no way to fully accept each other, do not just start a relationship.
In relationships, the most serious people are the saddest.
Murphy’s law also exists in love: the more you love someone, the more you are afraid of breaking up, but the easier it is to lose each other.
Feelings need distance, too loose two people will be separated, but too close will make two people suffocate.
No matter when, don’t love too much and lose yourself.
Breakups are the same, like playing rubber bands, the last to let go, must be more love, more care about the relationship of the party, but the most injured is also the person.
The one who was broken up with will often also fall into the predicament of abandonment and self-doubt, and will not come out for a long time.
There is a saying that it would be better for you to be the one to leave first and live happily with all the curses on your back, rather than suffering late at night, teetering and tossing and turning, being a good person in pain.
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There is no love that stays fresh forever.
Even the best love is inevitable with the transfer of time fade, this is the objective law can not be reversed.
When the relationship from the hot love period into the bland period, the need for two people to work together to find a more suitable way to get along, from time to time for love to increase the new vitality.
Do not get entangled at times, the other side of the change hit: stinking man got not cherish, label, question him: you do not like the previous so considerate, you are not love me?
Put down the burden, don’t be difficult for yourself, and don’t be harsh on others.
Details defeat love.
When love enters a stable period, what bothers both parties more are actually trivial matters.
In this world, there is never a partner who can match you perfectly, who can care for you all the time, take care of you, and help you solve all the problems.
We are all ordinary people with our own faults and shortcomings.
If you want to hold hands together for a long time, you must learn to support each other and compromise with each other.
After all, it’s so hard and difficult to change someone, it’s easier to change yourself.
And when you learn to compromise and change yourself, a good mate will surely change with you.
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The death of a relationship often begins with indifference.
The silence in a relationship is worse than an argument.
When you can no longer find new things to do from each other, when you get along with each other for a long time into an awkward silence, when you no longer share each other’s world, when you no longer care about each other’s lives, the relationship is already on the road to death.
Some people say, love is a test, you choose what kind of partner test is your ability to distinguish, get along with the ability to get along with your problem-solving skills, and finally choose to break up, the test is your ability to make trade-offs.
Fall in love more often, like many times to participate in the examination, may have mastered a lot of experience in the test, the face of failure will be frank, more know how to lick the wounds after the breakup.
But if you do not sum up the experience from the past relationship, learning, improve themselves, the next time you meet a new person, change a test question, perhaps you still did not graduate successfully.
Our relationship is a glass of wine, the more times the road to others, the lower the concentration. Experienced too many failed relationships, perhaps instead more do not know how to take relationships seriously.
So, I still hope you guys, no matter what, don’t lose the courage to fall in love.
I also hope that you have more luck and meet the right person soon.
