Grace has noticed that many people feel hypocritical and repulsed when they see tips about relationships. Especially girls, they think, these are sets, not sincere enough, and even feel that the boys who know how to love sets are not reliable. However, when really facing a relationship, often feel that honest boys are too dull, no interest.
In fact, skill is only a means in love, a kind of channel to a better love. Men are willing to spend time to make women feel happy and joyful, with what is not a kind of love and pay? Therefore, the treatment of skills this issue, we can not generalise, moreover, can not be used to judge a man’s good or bad. Moreover, even the ordinary people get along with each other are all about skills, not to mention men and women this two species from different planets. Skill is not a bad thing. Both men and women can learn it and use it. Here I would like to highlight 3 techniques.
The first trick: the great disguise
First of all, the attitude of “chasing girls” is already wrong. Girls can’t be chased, you can only attract them to you.
It’s important to say this three times first.
Always keep the girl guessing until you break the last layer of paper.
Always keep the girl guessing until you’ve broken the last layer of paper.
Always keep a girl guessing until you’ve broken the last layer.
How to disguise?
Keep your hormones in check until you’re officially together. Don’t have any physical contact, don’t have any cross-border words, and don’t monkey around with everything on your knees, remember, this is dignity and a red line. Of course, like the girl took the initiative with your physical contact, do not refuse, because this is the girl to force you to state. Girls are emotional, you want to arouse her attention, you need to arouse her mood swings,想要唤起她的情绪波动，就得让她想你。如何让她想你，就是让她猜 – 不管你喜不喜欢她。
You can be good to her, nothing to find her chatting, you can do all the normal boy to pursue the girl’s actions, but keep in mind, can not do to make her confirm that “you like her, want to make her into your girlfriend” thing. This degree is very difficult to grasp, but here press over the table, because here is the idea, not specific practices.
Here to talk about a very important thing, in public, never show what like her behaviour, because the public show of love is to establish a relationship after the thing, in order to determine the relationship before doing so will only be counterproductive. I once a friend, the pursuit of girls fanfare, make the world know, what girls dormitory under the flowers set candles, confession, circle of friends big like comments to express love and so on methods are tried again, waiting for the girl is annoyed at the refusal.
Remember, girls like to gossip, but do not like others gossip her. The psychological pressure of public opinion will be in her heart just sprouted good feelings into disgust, directly pass you. full of the pursuit of the city, the last is almost always the death penalty, unless the girl itself is also very much like you. But if the girl herself likes you, your “sneakiness” will make her happier and more comfortable with you.
Tip #2: Push back the confession
Confessions are not necessary until you are in a relationship. When you have not established a real relationship (before kissing), any confession will put pressure on the other person.
Especially if you confess when the situation is still unclear, it’s purely an act of gambling: it’s either a done deal or it counts. How does this work? Confessing when you haven’t established a high-value image in the other person’s mind will only make you miss out on opportunities.
Step 1: establish high value
Before confessing your love, complete the three-step strategy for men and women dating. For the average guy, the first step in making friends with a girl is the process of you establishing high value in the other person’s mind. But establishing high value is not done by bragging, showing off or showing off, which will only keep girls with quality and brains away from you.
In fact most of the men who adopt this approach have a lower IQ than the women they are pursuing. High value is not spoken, it is shown. Especially if it’s shown without thinking about it. The more deliberately you show your family background, wealth, taste, class, strength or ability, the more likely you are to be seen through by girls.
In fact most men who adopt this approach have a lower IQ than the women they are pursuing. High value is not spoken, it is shown. Especially if it’s shown unintentionally. The more deliberately you show your family background, wealth, taste, class, strength or ability, the more likely you are to be seen through by girls.
Girls are naturally much more emotionally intelligent than guys, they are far ahead in emotional education from an early age, growing up constantly being courted by guys, constantly circling the emotional circuit of rejection, acceptance and suspension, they are very good at dealing with emotional issues, very good at screening guys. You will never get the guy you want with this low IQ approach.
Once high value has been established through a natural, unpolished approach, the
Step 2: Build comfort with each other
Comfort means that she feels comfortable with you, not uncomfortable, not pricked or clucked. The process of building comfort is important, and it’s a great test of a guy’s emotional intelligence.
Most quality but very low EQ guys are passed over at this stage because they are used to getting caught up in their own thoughts and constantly talking about topics that the girl has no interest in. On the contrary, guys who are attentive, considerate, comforting, encouraging, praising, storytelling, telling funny things, and taking care of each other’s feelings stay, and their genes are more likely to spread. After the two parties have spent a few hours alone without getting bored, comes the
Step 3: Build trust and a deep emotional connection
This stage is subtle, ranging from as little as a few weeks to as much as a few months to a year or two, depending on how often both partners actually meet and communicate. Here’s where long-distance relationships are unreliable. There’s not much to say at this stage; guys with good character and a sense of responsibility will stay.
In short, when after these three stages, both parties have established very frequent contact, you then confess, things will fall into place.
For example, when you go hiking together, when you hold her hand, you say in passing: “if you can always hold hands like this to go on how good”, this time your confession work is completed.
Remember, love a person’s actions are far more important than words, confession is just to meet the girls to pursue the sense of ceremony and face the public to formally recognise the relationship between the two sides of the bond only.
The third move: prohibit bribery
Some guys are affected by the past “chase” concept is too heavy. Always think of women as a prize to be won after spending time, money, effort and energy.
Therefore, in this so-called “chase” stage, they will make treats, gifts or give favours (such as help repairing computers, writing essays, moving things, etc.) behaviour. This is actually a form of bribery.
Before the two parties have established a formal relationship, boys should not make the gesture of treating people at the drop of a hat.
Now that men and women are basically equal, self-respecting and self-loving girls usually don’t take advantage of guys, and if you treat her to dinner, she’ll probably treat you to a film or something. If a girl three times let you pay the bill, this kind of relationship do not want. This is to take you as a wrongdoer it! Until the relationship is acknowledged, any interaction is a willing and equal one, and spending should basically be 50/50 or 60/40. The first thing that you need to do is to make sure that you’re not going to get caught up in the game.
In the girl’s heart you already belong to the pursuer or “good man”, and when you have put on the “pursuer” hat or “good man” badge, they basically exclude you in the You’re not going to be able to do that. It’s no exaggeration to say that you won’t get the respect you deserve, and you can’t blame them for that, only your own approach. Also, women usually don’t like guys who take this approach; their common response to such guys is to send out the nice guy card. By the time you’ve bribed yourself to death and thought, “I’ve been so nice to you, won’t you say yes to me?”, girls tend to pass on you. Therefore, the establishment of equal interaction (both for the emotion, spending, thought of the input should be roughly the same) is the best way to win the heart of the girl you want. And the equal way is to show that girls can’t be chased.
Three-step method of flirting with girls:
Step 1, Attraction + Curiosity. Establish your own personal image, tell the girl what kind of person you are. This is the most important step, and there are many other modes here, such as emperor mode, prodigal son mode, poet mode.
Step 2, explore + guide. Subvert your own personal image, the beginning of the establishment of a variety of deceptive and lofty image with the girl to understand that this is false, so that the girl feels that you are actually not so bad. Then slowly guide the girl to confess to you.
Step 3, fascination + push to. It is to establish a contract with the girl, so that the girl will not lie to you about anything and hide it from you.
The best time to upgrade the relationship on a date, but many people feel that it is difficult to upgrade the relationship with a girl on a date, try some of the into the move is often misunderstood by the girls as hooliganism, causing girls to resent. Upgrade into a case of combat, since it is combat, naturally, there have been brothers experimented with, and the effect is not bad. If you and girls dating, not to use the body into the escalation of the relationship, then you and her date is meaningless, the girl will not take the initiative and you promoted to the relationship, after all, the girl is very shy!
For example, boys body into the case: and girls walking on the road, you can try and her gradually far away, that is to say, do not walk with her straight line, slowly to the right front walk, see if she will take the initiative to follow you, this is a subconscious expression, if the girls feel that you can, want to go further with you, she will follow your footsteps, moved to the direction you go, if the girls are not willing to very you to promote the relationship, she would be In accordance with the original direction straight to walk, without the slightest regard for your feelings!
(1) Women like to have physical contact with men. Most men are wrong to think, encounter women is a woman to lose men take advantage, the fact is far from it, women like physical contact more than men, women like physical pleasure more than men. I listened to a Nanjing radio female DJ’s article, said the girl to the hair salon to hair, in fact, is a kind of sexual consumption: young handsome hairdresser boy stood by the side, softly asked what hairstyle they like; hairdresser fiddled with their own hair, the mood of the undulating waves; occasionally the hairdresser’s fingers skimmed the side of the neck or ear, the heart will rise up with a strange sense of pleasure. Catfish steamed bunny said, most like to be BF kissed neck feeling, warm and soft all over the body without a little strength, have had this feeling of sisters do not anonymous.
1, such as boys limbs into the case:
And girls walking on the road, you can try and her gradually gradually far away, that is to say, do not walk with her straight line, slowly to the right front walk, to see if she will take the initiative to follow you, this is a subconscious expression, if the girls feel that you can, want to go further with you, she will follow your footsteps, move to the direction you go, if the girls are not willing to promote your relationship, she will follow the original direction straight to walk, without any regard for your feelings, and the girls will be able to walk in a straight line. Do not care about your feelings
2, the heart without distractions. Do not want to eat tofu idea, do not show obscene expression, do not have hesitation and fear. Decisive action, with clear eyes to eliminate her doubts, with a calm smile to eliminate her fear, as if nothing happened, as if this is the most natural thing under the sky. The girl will think that you were meant to be like this, that you are like this to everyone.
3, serve each other. There are two kinds of touch, the kind of touch that makes the girl comfortable and the kind of touch that makes you comfortable with yourself. Most of the time I make the mistake of thinking that if I feel comfortable the girl must feel comfortable too; then I realise that the way the girl likes to be stroked, she might not feel it at all from my side, or the way I feel it very much, the girl might not feel it at all.
4, the sooner the better. Don’t wait any longer, Do it now! Don’t fantasise that there will be a good chance in the future, don’t keep thinking that you two can fall into a very narrow dry well, or fantasise that she needs you to hold her when she hurts her foot in order to walk, it’s called YY. But there is also a kind of upgrading technique, which is in the existence of the chance but don’t do it.
But there is also an escalation technique where you don’t do it when the opportunity exists, which builds up and amplifies the sexual tension and increases the girl’s expectations. For example, if a girl is already intoxicated and falls into your arms, there is a perfect opportunity for a kiss, but you just continue to ruffle her hair; another example is that when a girl is dancing and rubbing her body against yours with some crazy dance moves, you don’t hug her, but instead, you open your hands or even turn your back on her and dance with her.
Common Escalation Into Tips.
(1) Handshake. You can shake and then use conversation to prolong the grip and let the girl feel the warmth of your hand. A special way of shaking hands is to gracefully kiss the back of her hand after shaking it, or to pull her hand up after shaking it as if you were going to kiss the back of her hand, but then suddenly turn your hand around and kiss the back of your own hand.
the back of her hand.
(2) Embrace. Sunny boy-like, American-like, open-armed hugs. Just opening your arms, without wrapping them around the other person and letting them hug you, creates more of a frame and shows that the other person is taking the initiative.
(3) Side hug. When crossing the street, pull her arm, or side hug her waist and block the side of the car with your own body. When taking a group photo, put your arm around her shoulder or waist.
(4) Hold her shoulders. Standing next to a staircase or on a platform, hold her shoulders and say “be careful”, or give her a push and pull back and say “be careful”.
(5) Body Pushing. Push her into someone else. Pushing her onto the dance floor.
(6) Hugging. Note, not rape! When the atmosphere is heated, carry her to the stage, carry her to the seat, carry her to the grass. If you meet resistance, you must not give up, once you give up, you become a hooligan, you insist on doing it to the end she will accept it.
(8) Kick and play. Eat or drink a cold drink together, two people sitting across from each other, flirting atmosphere, kick her legs with her feet underneath; some times the girl took the initiative to kick you first, this time do not be polite, kick back, kick her arse.
(10) Stroke the face. Gently brush the eyelashes off your face, if they happen to be non-existent. Wipe the sweat from your forehead with a tissue.
(11) Pinch the nose. Gently pinch her little nose, shake it, call her a pig, call her a bad girl, call her slutty.
(13) Bouncing on the head. Watch My Sassy Girl, bet her to pop her brain, gently pop it, gently scrape her face, with a gentle smile suddenly pop it hard, pop out the bag even better.
(15) Scratch the itch. Scratch the armpits. When she gets into any mischief, or makes any mistake, tickle her armpits to punish her. After scratching once, rub your hands together but don’t get down, look at her with a bad smile on your face, she won’t be able to stand the pressure to get into your arms.
(16) Massage. Help her massage shoulders, back, feet, the whole body.
(17) Palmistry. This is a girl is difficult to refuse a kind of escalation into the move, the first meeting you can pull her hand 10 minutes do not let go. Look at the time with the fingertips in the palm of her hand gestures, finger roots, finger side, fingertips are very sensitive parts, along the arm!
(20) Bite. Lightly bite her neck, hair, fingertips, ……
(24) Repeat some kind of contact. This is ANCHOR’s psychological skills, with upgrades into the reinforcement of a certain feeling, such as every time you make her laugh, touch her elbow, so that in the future you touch her elbow, she will feel happy again.
3, kissing interaction kissing is the ultimate step to upgrade the relationship in dating, but also the most likely to be treated as girls eat tofu, hooligan interaction. So how do we gracefully “hooligan” to let the girls accept your kiss?
Tell you a general technique: storytelling, you and she are brought into the story of the scene.
Take an example
You, “I’ve been dreaming about you in my sleep lately.”
(The girl will be shy and at the same time curious about what exactly you dreamt about. You can then use a twist to elicit a mood swing from the girl.)
You “Unfortunately they are all nightmares”
”Dreaming about kissing you, only to have you throw a slap at me and wake me up, it was horrible!”
Then you can ask “Are the dreams real or not?”
Through such a conversation to test the attitude of the girl paper, the girl paper will generally play sloppy, “it seems to be true,” at this time, you need to find an opportunity to go up to kiss the girl paper, “I want to try”.
If the girl did not refuse, congratulations, you can at least fight with the girl for ten minutes.
Remember the love formula easy to read the woman heart, Grace teach you love formula!
The first love formula: gas you + obedience you = like you!
Carefully observe your side, whether there is always a always love to make you angry but always obey your woman? Grace love couple net editorial advice, if there are men can not miss, she is likely to like you. There is no one woman all day to hold up nothing to do, love to provoke others angry, especially to provoke the man angry, because the woman always like in front of the man to show decency and understanding, but for the man she likes, on the contrary, she will like to provoke you to anger the way to cause you to her attention and to express their love.
Love formula two: learn you + with you = crush you
Women would have been particularly shy, in the face of their favourite men, they will always be silently concerned about him, silently learn everything about him or silently walk behind you, they always love to silently express their love, but do not dare to take the first step. So men find around you have silent attention to your woman, to understand, she is secretly in love with you. Men should know how to catch the woman limbs leaked out of the mind, take the initiative, let the crush into love.
Love formula three: heartache you + scold you = care about you
Although the woman is a sensual animal, but the woman only care about their own people she will go to the heartache you, only care about you will go to scold you for your own good, the woman is love face, in front of the man, there is no woman will go to scold for no reason, especially men, in her heart, she wants you to be good, do not want to be wronged, can not bear to see your sadness, do not want to see you decadent. So men face heartache and scold your woman, must know how to cherish.
Love formula four: want you + read you = love you
The most obvious manifestation of a woman in love with a man, is in her mind often miss you everything, miss your good, miss your bad, miss your words, miss your usual every move. That man how to see a woman in love with him? In fact, men can pay attention to her mood, dynamics or her friends around to understand whether she wants you and read you, after mastering everything, men do not waste such a good time, passive into active, courage to strike.
Love formula five: annoying you + ignore you = want to dump you!
Women like your mind to pay attention to, and women want to dump your mind more need to know, we often say that the woman derailed by the fight, when your woman began to often have something to annoy you, always love the little things into a big thing, or gradually began to ignore you, ignore you, then the man has to have a sense of crisis, she is very likely to have a derailment and the idea of dumping you to identify the woman want to dump your mind, let go of the hands when you let go of the salvage should be actively to retain! The first thing you need to do is to get rid of all the things that you have to do to get rid of them, and then you can do it.
Ten chatting words:
1, assuming that the answer method
I: You are actually a very curious (random adjective) people.
MM: Why?
I: Because I do not tell you why you will keep asking why.
2, kindly play women
She asked you to pick up something, you say: you want this ah?
She nods, or doesn’t say anything, or says grace.
You stare into her eyes and slowly say: not for you.
If she is angry, you say: the beauty plan is not yet used, how to give you.
- Look at the palm of your hand
Your life line is quite long, I judge that you can live through next week.
Your wealth line is not good, not much money before ninety years old, after ninety years old will get rich overnight.
Your marriage line tells me that you’ll believe whatever I say nowadays.
Do you know what kind of line this is? Point to one at random. It’s a line of sexual lows. It means you have X number of low points in your life.
- Push and pull method
(1) You: “Women, in fact, are somewhat related to cats.”
She: Why?
You: otherwise, how to call a tigress.”
(2) Let her in a short time willing to do something unimaginable with you:
Example: you say: you have beautiful hair, (push) and at the same time it looks like you haven’t washed it in days.
(Pull) But it’s pretty cute, it’ll be nice to be my new female wrongdoer.
(3) When crossing the street, pull her arm (push).
Say: Be careful. She should be quite grateful.
You say: I’m afraid that XX licence plate car will be broken by you (pull).
By taking the Grace course, you will master all these techniques
