The girl rejected you for only two reasons: the girl is not interested in you, do not want to date you:This is the core reason, but also the most common reason. And a girl chat for a period of time, want to make the relationship further, naturally need to date, but every time to ask her to come out to eat, always be rejected, this situation how to do it? For example, you chat with the girl is particularly flat, she is always a long time to return your message; or she replies to you always “er”, “oh”, “um” such a perfunctory answer; Grace I’m going to tell you how to date, and I’m going to tell you how to date, and Grace will break it down.
First go to improve themselves, improve their own charm, learn to attract girls, when she is attracted to you, she will accept your invitation, and even take the initiative to ask you. You did not give the girl security: for example, it is typical that you just know soon, both sides are not yet enough sense of connection and familiarity, the girl will generally reject your invitation. For example, the other party may just chat with you is still relatively pleasant, but this time the girl for you in fact is completely unknown.
How to ask a girl out is actually all about methods. It is always good to use techniques. Girls should have a plan to get ready to pick up girls, so that they can not be refused, but also to transport in the chat.
Do the following points, you can easily invite out of the girl.
Confirm if the person is free
If you want to ask a girl out, first of all, you need to know if she is free on the day you invite her. Think about it, if the girl and her friend have agreed to travel and she is all set to go. At this point, you ask the girl to dinner and someone invites her to dinner. With food, the girl must not be able to resist the temptation, and unfortunately, you went to ask the girl out at the wrong time, so she had to decline your invitation, and the girl had no other arrangements before the invitation. Just make sure that you are free, then your success rate will be much higher, and smart guys will also test the girl, “It’s finally the end of the work week. Where are you going for the weekend?” Or “It’s going to be a good weekend soon, we can go out” Tell her your arrangements and try to find out if the girl is available at the same time!
- Lower the bar for dating, start with a vague invitation.
When you invite, you need to lower the threshold of the invitation, simply put, this date girl can easily go to the appointment, do not need to spend too much trouble. For example, when you first start asking a girl out, try to pick a time that is less busy, but also a place that is easy to get to. If you’re in a hurry and the other person can’t make it or if you’re far away and it takes her a long time to get there, then there’s a chance that she’ll turn down the date. If you want to ask about that night, usually three to five o’clock that day about, the location can choose from the girl’s company is relatively close to the commercial plaza, in this case is a better choice.
- Reduce the psychological burden of girls
Some brothers invite girls unsuccessful, is because the girls psychological burden is too heavy, the two sides have not reached the ambiguous node, spend your money girls will have a burden. Encountering this situation, we must reduce the burden of girls, to invite her to dinner to say more lightly.
“A friend sent me two vouchers It’s a waste if you don’t eat.”
“You don’t want too much, it’s just a casual dinner, just to learn from you.”
“It’s not a big meal to waste, it’s just a very casual meal.”
3, do not give the girl the opportunity to reject you
First of all, before you invite, it is best to do some padding, do a vague invitation in advance. For example, you chat with the girls atmosphere is good, you can say to her, “some other day when the weather is good, out to sneak around”, “there is time for us to come out to sit down together,” or “sometimes we can go together to play or “Sometimes we can play board games together”. Like this kind of invitation without a clear time and place theme, the girl will not refuse you, also can not refuse you.
And you will give the girl a rationalisation reason for you to ask her out next time, after the formal invitation, the girl will not feel particularly abrupt, but have a certain preparation. The second thing is not to ask for permission to invite the girl.
For example, “Let’s go to the cinema this weekend?” “I want to invite you to dinner, is it okay?” This inquiring tone to ask the girl to give you a reply, in fact, are given the girl to reject your choice, but also exposed you full of sense of need, so you will not get the results you want. In fact, to change a more casual a little bit, not too deliberate, not too formal invitation method can be, because too formal words sometimes will give the girl pressure. And this invitation will be easier for her to accept and like, and even let her out of the initiative to buy you a drink. After attracting the girl to be decisive invitation, or your pure revolutionary friendship will never be sublimated.
- When the girl is in high spirits to invite to date
Girls will always be affected by her own emotions, so if you want her to accept your invitation, then your invitation time should be her mood is high, that is, the mood is better if a woman in a bad mood, she may have just quarrelled with her family, or she does not feel comfortable, then this time do not invite at this time, we should do is to stimulate the girl’s mood, tell interesting stories and humorous Jokes. When her emotions are touched by you and give you a positive feedback, this is the best time to invite! - Exchange of information Giving a sense of security
For a girl to want to come out on a date with you, it’s important to make the other person feel safe. And to make the girl feel safe can be achieved through two points. Simply put, it is to tell the girl you are not a casual person, not who you will be about, this is also to give the girl a sense of security is very important point. If you are a very casual person, the girl is not willing and dare not come out with you on a date. So you can take the initiative before inviting her to tell her what qualities you like in a girl. For example, can cook, good temper, real and do not pretend, etc.
These are some of the language ways to invite a girl. The language of inviting women out is certainly not a malicious way to deceive women. Instead, by thinking about things from a woman’s point of view, you will know what her concerns are and how to allay them and accept the date.
