Principles of Attraction: Attractive Traits
There are many attractive personal traits, and developing these traits is a major part of the process of increasing your attractiveness, and this part can be done before you even meet the person you want to be with. The more of these traits a person has, the more likely they are to be liked. Some of the most important traits are: self-confidence; belief in one’s own attractiveness leadership; ability to influence others pre-selection; already perceived by others as attractive ambition; promise talent; expertise and experience social intelligence; knowing what to do in what situation although there are many other traits that are perceived to be attractive, most of which are subordinate to one or more of these traits. There are a large number of books and courses devoted to improving these traits, so if you are having trouble, you can find help.

Confidence: We show confidence through a variety of behaviours, from the way we speak to the way we walk and stand to the way we interact with others. The highest level of self-confidence is to be aware of your own worth and to feel fulfilled. When you need recognition from others, you show a lack of confidence, which is not usually seen as attractive. Think about how you interact with others. Do you often seek their approval? This is a sign of a lack of confidence. A key to self-confidence is believing in your own abilities. This confidence is based on knowing that you can do it because you’ve done it before.

One of the best ways to build confidence with the opposite sex is to take it step-by-step: talk to anyone of the opposite sex until you get used to it or feel confident enough. Then try to talk for as long as possible. Eventually, you’ll be able to talk to the opposite sex naturally. Expressing your views and opinions confidently is very appealing, and it’s a key way to show that you have no need for others. Note that I’m not telling you to be a maverick to get attention.

Confidence is often expressed through body language. There are two types of body language, conscious and unconscious. Conscious body language is expressed through actions and posture, and unconscious body language is expressed through facial expressions. Most people find it easy to adjust their posture because it is conscious body language. Most communication is transmitted through body language. Many scientists believe that there are many similarities between the body language of humans and apes. The dominant male always stands up straight.

Leaders or “alpha males” always walk with their heads held high and look around them. Whilst not everyone wants to be a male leader, there is no body language that shows more confidence than standing up straight and making eye contact. Add a smile, and you’re sure to get a lot of smiles in return, and they’ll start trying to build a sense of familiarity with you.

Leadership Leadership is a powerful trait for socialising. You don’t need to lead everyone around you, you don’t need to be the leader all the time. The important thing is to know how to lead and to step up when the time is right. Many people believe that in every situation there is an indisputable leader – a general in the army, a headmaster in a school, etc. There are exceptions. But there are exceptions to this rule, and the idea that there are several leaders with different levels of influence in any situation is true in social situations.

Like other leadership skills, social leadership involves the ability to influence others, motivate, and cohesively work together, but without a very formalised hierarchy and accountability system. Social leadership is not arrogant, opinionated leadership, but subtle leadership. Social leaders influence people in different ways, such as organising a party, inspiring someone to go dancing, or getting a shy person to join in a conversation.

The following traits are commonly associated with leadership:
1) Demonstration; leading by example
2) Optimism; bringing confidence to supporters through action.
3) Co-operation; the ability to work with others
4) Purposeful; having clear goals
5) Contagious; ability to motivate and inspire others
6) Initiative; the courage to make decisions
7) Empathy; ability to understand his supporters

The more traits you show, the more like a leader you are. All of these traits can be developed, but some are harder to develop than others, especially if you don’t feel very optimistic or don’t like to make decisions. The best way to develop them, like self-confidence, is to practice. Putting yourself in situations where you have the opportunity to develop leadership traits – even organising a dinner party – can help.

Our opinions about something are heavily influenced by what other people think. We want what everyone else wants. Preselection is the idea that if you are liked by some people, others will start to like you too. This explains why people in male-female relationships are more attractive, and publicity such as appearances on TV can make someone much more likely to get a date.

When you are perceived as attractive by some people, other people will also find you attractive. This is called the ‘social transmission mechanism’ because your perception of value is influenced by the people around you. If you bring people of the opposite sex with you, it increases your chances of meeting others of the opposite sex. Your group’s social transmission helps you create preference values that help you win over other people of the opposite sex.
Having dreams and ambitions is a powerful way to express your long-term value. Your ambitions must be realistic and in line with your life. For example, it is unrealistic to want to be an astronaut without training. For example, it is unrealistic to want to be an astronaut without training. It is practical and improves the quality of life to be at the top of a company and build your own business. Having your own dreams and ambitions is attractive.

Expertise and experience add value as a man. Everyone has skills that they are good at. If you don’t know what you’re good at, think about the things you’ve done successfully or well. These are the skills that allow us to find our place and value in society. You have to be unabashed in showing off your skills. The easiest way to do this is to make an unintentional reference to a skill and then show it later. Never boast, but if you are really good at something, the results will be convincing.

If you don’t have a speciality, why not learn it? Hobbies are a great way to build a social circle, keep yourself busy, which reduces your neediness, and finally, show off your talents, which increases your attractiveness.

There are certain rules of behaviour in any social situation, and deviating from them can put you at odds with others. For example, it is not appropriate to make a scene in a fancy restaurant or to sit quietly at a lively party. Your behaviour must be socially acceptable.

It’s better to speak to different groups like a socialite. This is scary for newcomers, but it makes you more attractive. If you want to be truly attractive, I highly recommend that you develop as many attractiveness traits as possible and bring them into your life so that you know how to truly attract people.

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You’ve started the conversation, got her used to your presence, then broken up the rapport, earned some good reactions like pushing or hitting you, you’ve built attraction through fugue and investment, now you can escalate. You’ve built attraction through empowerment and investment, now you can escalate. Push the relationship in the direction you want it to go, you can kiss, ask for a date, get a phone number and so on.
Escalation is “taking chances” and your goal is to get physically closer and act like you’re hanging out together. Many people feel uncomfortable with their friends watching them, and ideally you both want to move to a quieter environment, at least one without acquaintances. You can take her to a dance floor, another bar or some other environment where she won’t be watched by her friends, so she can feel more comfortable with the escalation.
Physical contact is a major part of the escalation process. Touch her elbows or legs at first, don’t overdo it, and be relaxed and gentle. As we slow down the pace, our goal is to get her comfortable with you. The most important thing you need to know is to look like you don’t care. If you touch her with purpose, if you are careful when you put your hands on her, if you are worried about offending her, she will feel uncomfortable.

Imagine a boy and a girl sitting close to each other in a pub, enjoying a relaxed and happy time. The boy looks at the girl’s jeans and says “I like your jeans – where did you get them?”. At the same time, he touches them with his hand, which is natural behaviour. Imagine again if the boy looked nervously at the girl’s legs a couple of times and then put his hand up to her and said “Can I touch here?” It would be really weird and the girl would wonder what he really wanted!

Of course, even natural touching can sometimes be met with a bad response, as some people are very uncomfortable with physical contact. If this happens, just apologise and explain that you didn’t mean it, and laugh it off. Take a few steps back and build up some familiarity before attempting contact. If you can touch her neck without her resisting, you can try kissing her.

For many people, kissing is a difficult step, but it’s not so scary if you know how. When you both look into each other’s eyes, you will feel a tension.
You can do this by embracing her, kissing her on the face, and then leaning back without letting go. Kiss her face again and notice her reaction. Does she want to be kissed or does she want to move away? If she tries to avoid it, let her go and go back to the escalation phase, perhaps to build up a little more familiarity. If she wants to kiss, keep kissing!

Additional Notes

There are many different aspects to consider when building attraction, and some people are easy to talk to, so it doesn’t always work. But knowing the principles and equations of attraction can explain a lot of difficult questions, such as, “Why don’t they like me?” or “Why do I always have to be the opposite sex’s friend?”