Every day there are a lot of friends asked me, said they will not and girls correct way of chatting, do not know how to chat to the girls chat “hi” up. In fact, the so-called chatting method, the same thing, Grace mentor 8 years of teaching experience summed up nothing more than a few big part: framework chatting method, multi-line chatting method, traction chatting method. The so-called chat hair, all changes are not the same!
The first thing you need to do is to get a good understanding of what you’re doing and how you’re doing it. No nonsense, we go step by step to analyse the interpretation!
To understand women, to understand girls, to analyse needs, to analyse desires, Grace is here to guide you! Several kinds of high emotional intelligence chatting method!
One: frame chat method
The so-called framework chat method, refers to the chat before you have built completed the next few days, or even a few weeks a month of chat topics, this way is the least risky of all the chat, the highest return, but also the most troublesome, the most difficult to deploy, summed up, the framework chat method is divided into a total of five major steps, step by step, to capture the heart.
The first step: initial communication
Add her WhatsApp, how to go and say hello to her, this is a problem worth thinking about, as the saying goes, everything is difficult at the beginning, if the first time you chat you leave her a bad impression, then the next no matter what you do, this bad impression will be rooted in her mind.
The key to initial communication is summed up in one word: who you are.
Many brothers just started to communicate, can not figure out this reasoning, directly using the household type chat, the first sentence asked “which people, what do?” Girls look, a big white eyes rolled over, do not know thought it was a liar.
Just start communicating, to do with the shortest language to introduce yourself clearly, it is enough, after introducing yourself, throw out the other party interested in the topic, the chat will go on smoothly, it is enough.
The second step: show value
Men and women just started chatting, the natural attraction of opposites can make your communication continue, but how long can continue to be sure, I’ve seen too many from the strange to the end of the chat length of more than five minutes, the reason is that the boys did not show the value of the girls are interested in. To show you a few of the value of the show has been experienced in the field:
NO.1 Expression of status
These topics by themselves don’t really help the girl, but they do extend the conversation between you. After I pointed out the problems in Jack’s chat, Jack came to his senses. Realising that chatting is an ability that needs to be learnt, I seriously taught him the Extreme Chat Method that I created. Since the Extreme Chat Method has more than 200,000 words in its original manuscript. I can’t expand on it here due to space constraints. I’ll just pick three of the key points and share them with my friends.
Insight into the needs
Girls lament that knowing is more scarce than love. Every girl hopes to meet her soul mate and Prince Charming. They all hope that their boyfriends can understand themselves and give them the feeling of need, value and dependence. So in the chat to give a woman to be understood, to be understood, to be cherished feeling will make her and your chat obsessed. Because she can become a better version of herself by chatting with you!
Establishing an emotional connection
Once you know each other and like each other. After a girl starts to warm up to you and expresses her feelings for you, you need to transition your relationship from chatting friends to potential spouses, or simply boyfriend and girlfriend, as soon as possible. Move your relationship from the attraction level to the emotional level.
Heart Attack
When you have a deep understanding of a girl’s psychology, personality, outlook, and emotional outlook, the choice of spouse. You still like her time, this time you have to be steady and accurate, do not leave room for unscrupulous to persuade a girl to rest assured boldly to her heart, and love to you. This will need to attack the heart type discourse. Because you do well, the ultimate choice is in the hands of the girl. If you can’t convince her to take action and choose to fall in love with you, then your previous efforts are useless.
NO.2 Change the topic
NO.3 Digging up keywords
In every sentence a girl says, there is a keyword, which may represent her current state, what she is doing, hobbies, favourite stars, etc. We can cater to her taste by digging up the keywords in each other’s words, so that the chatting can be smoother.
Step 3: Establish a sense of chatting comfort
A man with brains will chat into a daily routine, a man without brains will chat into a daily trial, the root cause lies in whether or not the chatting comfort has been established, when chatting should become the norm, she would like to take the initiative to contact you will become natural. On the contrary, if the comfort level is not perfect, even if she wants to send you a microblogging, will consider whether it will be too abrupt, here we talk about how to establish this chat comfort level
NO1. funny and humorous men attract people’s love
A baggage, and you chat like listening to comedy, say a laugh, no one does not like to talk to such a person, to establish your sense of humour will be a great help to chat.
NO.2 The casual man has manners
This is common in what you help him after the favour, in fact, to help after a little reward, or waved his hand to say that do not mind, are people’s normal reaction, no matter which will not let the girls have a bad feeling, for fear of giving rewards do not, but always from time to time to take this thing out of the matter, this kind of people, it is very difficult to find a girlfriend.
NO.3 adhere to the bottom line of the chat men have cultured
Some boys like to say yellow paragraph when chatting, this is more typical of the bottom line without chat, anything to pull on a few sentences, open mouth soil Hi shut up sex organs, which is very inviting girls hate, we give an example to illustrate: so when chatting, abstain from swearing, abstain from wanting to be dissatisfied, don’t let the other side once you see your name, think of the screen across a lewd face.
Step 4: Vague Invitation and Formal Invitation
The ultimate goal of chatting is to ask the girl out, so the invitation step is very important. In fact, if you really follow the above steps step by step, the invitation is no longer a problem, your chatting comfort level is already perfect, and the girl’s heart will not really refuse to date you.
So we have to learn to blur the invitation, such as the common words “have time to come out for a walk.” “Go watch a film when you have nothing else to do.” Through these vague date requests without a definite time and place, to judge the other party’s attitude. As long as the other party can give you a positive answer, you can initiate a formal invitation!
Step 5: Obedience Test
In the process of vague invitation, many people will worry about a problem: her consent, is really agreed, or just casually answer a sentence, the heart did not take it seriously, so we also need an obedience test to determine her true intentions. When it comes to this, you need to pay attention to the following is our obedience test stage.
Second: multi-line chat method
In our daily chat, always overlooked a problem, chatting like a leader to report work, what to say what to ask a line to answer a line, and strive to use the most concise language to make things clear, however, in the chat with the girls, this way is not right.
Chatting, we have a framework in mind, to ask what things, or to say what things, that is, the main line in the chat, usually, we will call this main line in the chat straight line. And those words that have nothing to do with the main topic, used to reconcile the atmosphere of the words, is the sub-line in the chat, usually, we will call these words in the chat curve. In the chat, can not only the main line, because this will let the other side that you are a dull, no sense of humour, and a serious talk, but also let the other side lose interest in chatting with you, we need the curve to add some atmosphere to the chat, to get rid of the uncomfortable chat.
Third: traction chat method
The meaning of the word “traction” does not need me to explain carefully, we can see the understanding, what is the traction chat method? To put it bluntly, it is through a sentence, triggering each other’s attention to the topic, let her follow your chatting thoughts, and firmly guided her thoughts.
“Our boss is really nice.”
When you throw out this sentence, the first reaction in her mind is “Where is your boss good?” You follow her train of thought down the line, “Our boss gave us a pay rise.” “The company is paying for a trip at Christmas.” And so on this kind of explanation around the topic thrown out at the beginning, her thoughts will follow you, and then think of the state of their own company, whether it is a positive comment or crazy spit also, it does not matter. Because you want to be able to stimulate her desire to discuss the topic, the desire to stimulate, between you there is no “awkward chat” this kind of situation.
